12 Signs You are Stressed Out and Anxious
I have suffered for a long time with anxiety, except I didn’t know I had it.
It was really hard for me to recognize that I had symptoms of anxiety, because the way I reacted and felt day to day was normal for me – the tightness in my chest when I went into a crowded room, the racing heart when I was asked what my opinion was, the clenching of my jaw when I slept and when I was meeting deadlines, and terrifying panic attacks which seemed to creep up out of nowhere.
I was just like a lot of other people, I found it very difficult to identify when I was stressed and anxious, because most of the time my mind was racing and focused on the next thing I had to do, not on how my body felt, or how it should feel.
What happens in your mind is transferred to your body. When your mind is stressed your body is stressed, because your mind is alerting your body into survival mode in order to cope and get through the stress your mind is perceiving.
Often the symptoms of stress and anxiety can be the cause of a whole range of ongoing stressful events such as:
- job stress or job change
- change in your living arrangements
- family & relationship problems
- pregnancy and giving birth and coping being a parent
- emotional shocks and traumas following a stressful or traumatic event
- nutritional stress
- never ending worry about the future
- death or loss of a loved one
Everyone’s stress is different because how your mind perceives an experience as threatening, can be perceived as non threatening to another person.
For some it is big life stressors mentioned above that drives your head into a spin, and for some – doing day to day activities can drive your body into fight or flight (survival chaos) in an instant. Like getting in the car to drive to a new location, fear of not making it to an appointment on time, dropping the kids off at school, or having fear that someone will judge you or reject you can be stressful enough to make you anxious.
For m, anxiety manifested due to a whole range of different stressors. It started becoming a regular friend in my teenage years, where I had terrible body image and self-esteem. I was bullied in primary school and high school for the way I looked, how I acted and who I was, and I found it very hard to be myself in the world. I feared being hurt, rejected, ridiculed, and taunted. Being in social situations were terrifying.
My level of anxiety developed into my early 20’s when I moved states 3 times within the year, changed jobs more than 5 times per year over 5 years, and worried about whether I was ever going to have enough money to feed myself each week, plus study stress, plus long distance relationship stress, and body image stress.
My body was saying SLOW DOWN, but my mind was not having a barr of it. Finally one day, my back pain became so intense and mostly unbearable that I had to stop and take a look internally. My back pain was my body’s alarm system, and I am thankful for that, because it started me on this journey back to my true self.
My journey to freedom from anxiety
The back pain I was experiencing helped me to recognize that I needed help. I had chronic pain, I was swinging between anxiety and depression day to day, I was in emotional turmoil. A lot was going on and I didn’t know where to start, or what I could do to help myself feel better. After seeing a psychologist for some time, without really seeing an improvement in the physical symptoms I was experiencing in my body, I sought the help of a Kinesiologist. I had heard about Kinesiology on and off for a year, but I didn’t know enough about it, so I finally worked up the courage to go and see one and experience it for myself.
My Kinesiologist looked crossed between a Medicine Man & a Ninja Warrior and I thought, “this was going to be an interesting experience!” I laid down on a comfortable massage table, and my Kinesiologist began to test various muscles as feedback from my body to gage what was blocked, stressed, disconnected, and imbalanced.
After an hour and a half, I had noticed my whole body had unlocked, relaxed, and I felt a sense of peace and calmness I had not felt in an extremely long time. Over many sessions, I found out that my stress levels were through the roof because of my dysfunctional ways of coping, my debilitating fears which were playing in the background of my subconscious mind day in day out (that I wasn’t aware of), all of which were at the root cause of these anxiety symptoms that I had developed over the years.
Through Kinesiology and self development work, old emotional traumas and locked in emotional reactive patterns were identified, recognized, released and cleared. My anxiety symptoms reduced and finally went away, and I could deal with the same stressors in my daily life with calmness of mind and understanding that I hadn’t had before. Instead of holding on to emotional stress, I could now let go of what wasn’t serving me instead.
Through my journey with anxiety I have learned deeply about the mind body connection, and how to recognise, release and gain control of my emotions again. I have gone on a wonderful journey back to my true self grounded in balance, confidence and harmony. I can now go through life with ease, instead of signifiant resistance.
Common symptoms of anxiety you may not know about
It is really important to recognize the common symptoms of Anxiety, before they begin to rule your life. The hidden signs of stress and anxiety that you may not be aware can have a psychological origin such are:
*Headaches. Clenching your jaw; tensing your facial, neck, or shoulder muscles; or grinding your teeth are physical responses to stress that could cause head pain.
*Body aches or muscle tension. When you are exposed to stress, your sympathetic nervous system activates the fight-or-flight response. Blood is then sent to major muscle groups that increase muscle tension and prepare you to fight or flee a situation. If you don’t take any action to reduce your aches and tension, muscles may stay tight long term causing other structural & muscular pain.
*Panic attacks. Stress causes your baseline arousal level to be higher than typical — closer to the level at which people begin to experience panic attacks — which may increase your likelihood of experiencing a panic attack.
*Emotional eating. Using food to comfort and cope with anxiety and other emotions that are out of control.
*In a constant state of overwhelm. Finding it hard to focus on anything else but the overwhelming feelings of anxiety.
*Nausea. When under stress, your body releases hormones particularly adrenaline which can disrupt the enzymes and acids of the stomach and intestines causing nausea, and pain.
*Rapid Heart Beat, Trouble Breathing, Lightheadedness: When your body is in fight or flight it sends signals out to certain organs to respond. These signals tells your heart to beat faster, causing you to take short sharp breaths to deal with the stress that you are faced with. This shallow breathing can lead to lightheadedness and difficulties in breathing deeply.
*Restlessness, biting your nails, repetitive tapping. Stress or anxiety can cause these common nervous habits.
*Gastrointestinal distress. For some people, the gut can be a barometer of your stress leading to constipation, nausea, bloating or an upset stomach.
*Increased sweating. We sweat when stressed, thanks to hormones such as adrenaline, which is involved in the fight-or-flight reaction.
*Nightmares, Insomnia, & Disturbed Sleep Patterns. Chronic stress increases rapid eye movement (REM) sleep and decreases slow-wave or deep sleep, disrupting cell and body maintenance and repair.
*Frequent illnesses. Stress promotes overproduction of hormones that regulate your immune system and affects your ability to produce the white blood cells that fight infection. This can weaken your immunity against viruses, causing frequent illnesses.
What does it feel like to feel calm, confident and connected to your true self?
> You are in tune with your body’s signals and recognise the telltale signs of stress and anxiety
> You honour your body’s wisdom and become in flow with your own rhythm
> You treat your body with kindness, understanding and compassion
> You are no longer stuck in cycles of intense worry and catastrophic fear
> You know your worth, strengths, talents and gifts
> You know your boundaries and have cultivated the capacity to be assertive and say no
> You are connected to your own needs and desires
> At the very core of who you truly are, you know you are enough.
Because of my own personal experience with chronic stress and anxiety, I now specialise in helping others with stress and anxiety symptoms. I combine Kinesiology with coaching and other powerful techniques to create long lasting results from your physical symptoms to stress.
Anxiety can be managed, and resolved long term. You don’t have to live with the physical symptoms of Anxiety, Kinesiology can help you, I am living proof of that.
If you wish to have chat about how Kinesiology can help you with your symptoms of your Anxiety, please give me a call, or email me. You can also make a start and take charge of your Anxiety by using tools on my blog here.